Dear Steve and Shirley,
My husband is a very jealous man, and I lost a big client because of him. He thinks I flaunt my assets too much wherever I go. I still have my 21-year-old body, and I run all the time to stay in shape.
As one of the leading mortgage brokers in our area, I’m always competing with younger women and men. When my husband and I are out, he gets uncomfortable by how men look at me, and for the past 25 years, I’ve tried to tell him that it’s a good thing—that I’m still attractive.
The biggest issue we always have is how he interferes with my job. The last time was unforgivable. I had a multimillionaire couple interested in buying a multi-use complex. I told my husband about it and how much commission I could make. He Googled the man and started hating on him immediately.
The evening of my third meeting with my millionaire client, I told my husband where I would be—but I didn’t mention that the man's wife was joining us. They had already seen the space, and he wanted to give me an offer. But guess who popped up? My husband.
As soon as we were seated, he scooted into the booth next to me. He greeted my client and made a comment about it being a romantic business meeting because the lights were dim. My client knew what was going on, and he let my husband know it was strictly business and he was welcome to stay.
My husband got offended by my client giving him permission to be there. As a result, I lost the business, and my husband looks like Booboo the Fool.
My husband said that I don’t know how men think. Am I missing something here, or is his jealousy justified?